In this episode, I discuss the adventures and the treasure of being a Stucknaut!
My name is Justin Sunseri.
I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist that thinks the world needs a new paradigm for mental health.
Welcome to Stuck Not Broken.
But before I get into things -put yourself first. I keep every episode as safe as I can, but just by the nature of the topics, you may experience some stuff come up. Take a break if you need to.
This podcast is not therapy, nor intended to be a replacement for therapy.
TOPIC - WHAT IS A STUCKNAUT?
It’s you. It’s me. It’s the audience of the Stuck Not Broken podcast.
It’s those that are interested in PVT and the somatic elements of being human.
Last episode was about the general beliefs of being a Stucknaut.
TOPIC - THE INTERNAL WORLD
Astronauts - space
Argonauts - sea
Stucknauts - inner world of themselves
How their inner world is impacted by external factors, present and past
Every Stucknaut exploration is different than others'
Common human experiences, sure
Learn and share with each other and build
In essence, exploring safety and danger, exploring stuck ANS states
From past events or lack of events
From lack of safety development
Lots of peril that may reinforce the stuck state
Resulting in flight, fight, shutdown or freeze possibly
Past, flashbacks, stuck autonomic states
Some known, some not
Good chance there is hidden stuff
Good chance there is unknown safety
Can be vulnerable and scare someone
Memories that will be encountered -
Present moment that brings up a past event
Mammal-universal: surprise, fear, disgust, sadness, joy and curiosity, excitement, gladness and triumph
Especially emergency responses that were thwarted
Bracing, contracting, retracting, fighting, fleeing, freezing, setting and maintaining boundaries
Approach or avoid, attraction or repulsion
TOPIC - HOW THE INTERNAL & EXTERNAL CONNECT
Affect each other
People, environment affect internal and vise versa
Safe environment means we can go inside
Neuroception is the process of this
Info from the outside
State shift and then info to the outside
We do the inner work to affect the outer world
Improve work and school
The Stucknaut is exploring the inner world, but aware of the external and internal
TOPIC -the TREASURE OF A STUCKNAUT
Not in this for the riches
Goal is safety, connection, inner peace, calm, connection
Might look different for all of us individually
Shared experiences, shared similarity
Change for self
Change for family
Change for community
Inner world first, then the external
Individual autonomy in a co-regulative and shared communal world
Finding the boundary of themselves and others
Co-regulation is helpful and maybe a tool to use in a sense, though we don’t control that and we should not be compelling that imo
Work on the internal to become the co-regulator for others
Can’t compel others to be what we need
That’s not the goal
Goal is to be for ourselves what we need
THANKS SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!
I hope you’ve learned something new to help you climb your polyvagal ladder.
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Trauma and Memory book - https://amzn.to/3jGI64h
Building Safety Anchors - https://www.justinlmft.com/challenge-page/5180d0d1-fa0d-4833-8a96-b41546791435/
This week’s Patreon episode - https://www.patreon.com/justinlmft
Intro/Outro music & Transition Sounds by Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats
National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233
LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386
National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673
Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741
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