This episode definitely requires a content warning on it. It's heavy stuff. We don't go into specific trauma stories or details, but the episode is all about the stuff that reinforces the stuck defensive state, so please make sure you're ready to take it in. I can almost guarantee this is an emotionally triggering episode.
It’s never just the trauma
What you’re left with that affects your daily life that reinforces the trauma
The stuff that keeps you stuck
Stuck state: flight/fight, shutdown, freeze (And what these are)
Emotions: Anxiety, sadness, numbness, anger, panic, rage, overwhelm
Reflections of the stuck state: Thoughts, Self doubt, beliefs, judgments
Behavioral adaptations to the stuck state, emotions, thoughts: Addiction, OCD, abuse, increased sleeping, pushing others away
Being cut off from safety -
These represent losing a safe person or place
No escape, no way to fight back
No opportunity to climb the ladder to safety
Central to the process of C-PTSD
1. By the perpetrator
Due to threat- The fear of loved ones being harmed if victim tells
Due to wanting to protect someone else from harm, like a sibling or parent
Living with the abuser and never getting to safety
Perpetrator has control over your life - like finances, privacy, food; Having to appease the perpetrator to get needs met
2. How the people in your life react
Not believing the victim - Probably due to their own stuff; Not a reflection of the victim at all
Not being able to act on their belief - Possibly more of a shutdown state; Not enough sympathetic fight or flight energy to act; Minimizing what happened, Not reporting, Keeping a secret
3. Losing a safe person or place
Death in the family like a grandparent - the safety escape is no longer an option
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