In this episode, I…
Answer a Patron’s question about the difficulty in coming out of shutdown.
My name is Justin Sunseri.
I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist obsessed with the polyvagal theory.
Welcome to Stuck Not Broken.
But before I get into things -put yourself first. I keep every episode as safe as I can, but just by the nature of the topics, you may experience some stuff come up. Take a break if you need to.
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TOPIC - PATRON QUESTION RE: SHUTDOWN
From Anabell via Patreon -
What’s the best way to get out of dorsal shutdown? It feels really hard to get up the PolyVagal ladder. Is it simply bringing in mobilized energy? Why does it feel so hard to do that?
Review - dorsal shutdown vs freeze (episode 104 & 105)
Coming up the polyvagal ladder into sympathetic
What’s the best way?
I don’t know.
Calm, low stimulation
Being with others that are safe co-regulators
Feeling into the shutdown state
Images that come to mind
It’s hard to climb the ladder from shutdown and in general...
Yeah every state up the ladder might be very new and very different
Existing in defensive states out of necessity
Feels weird, feels vulnerable
Shutdown to sympathetic can be overwhelming
Irritability is a common first indicator outside of therapy
BSA can be helpful in building the vagal brake necessary to tolerate the returning energy
Is it just bringing in mobilized energy?
Not bringing it in from the outside
Producing it from inside, sympathetic
Allowing for the ans space to do so
Building a tolerance to it bit by bit as it returns
Why does it feel so hard to do that?
Feels hard, yes - sensations and feelings are difficult
Conserving to using
Not used to mobilized state
Might feel overwhelming
Anger feels like failure
A life we have not experienced
Not knowing what things can be like
THANKS SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!
I hope you’ve learned something new to help you climb your polyvagal ladder.
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