In this episode, I…
Discuss the final mixed state of the Polyvagal Theory - Stillness.
My name is Justin Sunseri.
I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist obsessed with the polyvagal theory.
Welcome to Stuck Not Broken.
But before I get into things -put yourself first. I keep every episode as safe as I can, but just by the nature of the topics, you may experience some stuff come up. Take a break if you need to.
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TOPIC - STILLNESS MIXED STATE
safe/social + shutdown = Stillness
Ventral vagal + dorsal vagal
Shutdown, immobile, but safe
Being okay with being still
EXERCISE -what sounds more likely to allow stillness for you?
Eyes closed if you want, deep breath -
Clip 1 - nature sounds
Clip 2 - electric hum
TOPIC - WHEN WE ARE STILL
During restroom breaks
During physical intimacy (sometimes)
During work at a desk
All of these require that we are immobile but safe
You’re probably being still right now
TOPIC - ACCESSING DORSAL IMMOBILIZATION
When we are still, we’re immobilizing
We usually talk about shutdown in terms of defense
But with safety, becomes repurposed
Stillness is a challenge for many that are down the polyvagal ladder
TOPIC - ACCESSING VENTRAL SAFETY
Being still without fear or defense
Safety state prevents the feeling of fear or general defense
Stillness in shutdown is different, more just like immobilization
Stillness requires safety
In shutdown, there is too much collapse
Can fall asleep, but oversleep; stillness allows for enough sleep
TOPIC - THE DIFFICULTY IN BEING STILL
Too much sympathetic activation
Sitting through a meeting
Fidgeting can result
Need to be able to immobilize while safe
Can’t immobilize while in flight/fight
Body is prepared to run or fight
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TOPIC - INCREASE SAFETY ACCESS FOR MORE STILLNESS
Just like in any defensive state
Hums of lights, fridge, traffic, a/c when trying to be still and construction/gardening equipment on houses
Constant sound of traffic at home, lower in office
The silence of a blackout during a bad storm
I could really settle into stillness
Music or silence?
Sounds before bedtime can help
Music during a massage or yoga or work
Chillhop helps me with busy work
Dim or bright
I have bright fluorescents at work that create a hum along with the a/c, but also bright unpleasant light
Opening a window if possible
Leaving a door open
THANKS SO MUCH FOR LISTENING!
I hope you’ve learned something new to help you climb your polyvagal ladder.
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