Justin Sunseri, LMFT
Aug 20, 2019
Updated: Mar 27, 2020
TOPIC - LOVE
It’s not enough to just love your kids, you also need to express it
Builds a healthy attachment
Knowing vs Feeling
Important to express love in ways they will understand
SAY IT OUT LOUD
If you’re thinking it in your head, just say it out loud!
Any time is the right time!
“I love you” “I love you so much” “I can’t believe how much I love you”
WRITE IT DOWN
Saying it out loud might not be comfortable
Mailbox, notes in pocket or backpack
PHYSICAL AFFECTION
Might be safer
Hugs, kisses, high fives, daps, arm around the shoulder
TOPIC - PLAY
Safe/social + flight/fight
Involves cues of safety like face to face contact, checking for safety
Play is in the same state
safe/social
If one person drops too far into flight/fight, it’s no longer play
Play is with the same assumptions or rules
YOUR HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENTS -
Notice how many times you say “I love you” to your kids
Play!